Dr. Gooch taking our picture and wearing a pair of my sunglasses because he is always losing or breaking his.
No matter what your spouse is speaking of, respond to any thought expressed out loud in your presence, even in mixed company--positively, respond positively.
It is true that this may become more difficult with age, but remember requests and rants, delights and desires.
3. Roll in the hay.
Whether it is two times a week or twenty-two, keep it regular, make it happen.