My favorite time is right after they all fall asleep. The children. I was thinking this morning that the emotion that a normal adult experiences in a week, we go through in the few hours before school. Seth is a really obedient child. Always has been. But he has some aggression. He's an internalizer, like his Dad. They internalize. It's like notching closed the nozzle at the end of a hose. So, this morning, things weren't going his way in the fort-building process taking place in the girls' closet. So Lucy got a slap to the face. Lucy came crying. So, I decided now was a good time to get out of bed. 7:05.
We're really working on this. The aggression. I took $.50 from his metal box full of coins. He told me, "I hate you." Which stings more than you think it would. He told me, "You're not allowed to take my money." I told him, "You're not allowed to hit your sister." These are the trenches, my friends.
We came home from a wonderful night watching Wicked at the DPAC. I paid the sitter and sent her home next door and went to tidy the kitchen. There on the table were five dead flies. I called for Dr. Gooch, "There's been an insect suicide pact in our kitchen!" Come morning, Seth confessed that he was the culprit in these deaths. I have no idea how he did this. Then Lucy chimed in: "I helped, too!"
Back track to last night. We left on our date with all the kids in bed except Seth, the oldest. I told Lucy that if she got out of bed that I would take away her new lip gloss she picked out from Michael's. Okay, Mom. I promise, I'll stay in bed.
Fast forward back to this morning. "So, does this mean you got out of bed last night to help Seth kill flies?" So I took away the lip gloss and Lucy's world as she knew it ended in that moment. We got in the car trailing tears and mother-guilt and I dropped the punished off at school.
My favorite time is right after they fall asleep. It means that maybe a little REM might reset the traumas of the day and I have some time to recover and prepare to do it all over again. Because, as you see, it starts before I even get out of bed.