Tuesday, March 10, 2009

Worry, Mud, and Love

Even covered in mud, this smile is like gold to me these days. My serious Seth. The oldest of the mini goochkins. He worries that, though we talk of being together forever as a family, he will get lost and we will not be able to find him and demands that we come up with a plan should that happen. Answers are what he seeks when wondering out loud about what is past heaven and where does the water in the ocean go and how does it stay on the earth. He will not be pacified until everything is formulated and happens just as it was said to happen. Compulsive? Obsessive? We're way beyond that folks.

And, so, I worry, too--that his childhood is passing him by as he stews over the problems of life (and the universe). How do you teach a child to just enjoy it? There isn't always a mud puddle around to lighten our spirits, unfortunately. Dr. Gooch prescribes love. And the doctor knows best. So we're doling out daily doses of it, hoping the remedy will restore a bit of carefree-ness in our serious Seth.

9 comments:

Natalie said...

Love it! I have a child like that as well. But luckily he finds the fun in these scientific searches. And luckily he has a dad that makes these research projects fun. "What did you learn from this?" "How can that make a difference in your world?" "Does this apply to you? How?"

But the questions are endless from this child. Not so much out of worry (as it sounds with Seth, but of amazement and wonder.

I think Craig is right. Show love and interest in his world, then he'll learn safety, security and can see the AMAZEMENT of this world that's been created. But Seth is right, how WAS all of this created? How does the water stay in the ocean? Wow! He's a deep thinker!

Good luck!

Gina said...

Kylie is a worrier JUST like this!

Ingrid said...

I just think it's absolutely fascinating that our children come to us already with such amazingly unique personalities. You have four really special Goochkins over there..

amy m said...

He is so adorable. He sounds a lot like my Tess. I think you are dead on, love has the ability to comfort all our fears.

Carol said...

Ok, so this is off topic, but I just wanted you to know that I LOVE your playlist. I come over here sometimes just to listen to the music. So, thanks!

Ann said...

Such a sweet smile. Good thing he has such loving parents.

kentucky said...

Sometimes I think yours and mine are meant to be bosom buddies. Wouldn't surprise me.

Tasha said...

I really think its an oldest child thing. They (or at least I was) tend to be "old sould" and are wise and concerned beyond their years.

Dr. Gooch is right, love, stability, unconditionally. That's all he needs.

How did you come up with the name Gooch anyway? I must have missed the boat on this one!

Tracy said...

We're all born with different personalities, and the world is a better place because of it. "Serious" people, skeptics, realists are very important to making things happen, or rather to making things work. Can you imagine if the world was made up only of wide-eyed dreamers? Things would fall to pieces...pretty little pieces, for sure. All together we create balance.

And it's important to remember that one person's idea of fun may be different from another's. Seth will lighten up with time, I'm sure, but in the mean time just appreciate him for his seriousness. It's a good trait.