Sunday, October 21, 2007
A Lesson In Patience
This morning Seth was feeling upset for an unknown (to us) reason. He has always been a pretty even-tempered boy except for a stint just after he turned three where he threw some of his first tantrums. At 4 1/2, he has long since moved on from tantrums to threats.
As we were preparing for church he announced in a gruff voice, "I am going to push the house down!"
I answered that that was fine, go ahead, but don't be sad when it rains on us (ha!) or the bugs crawl all over us while we are trying to sleep, or other creepy crawlies get us.
He thought for awhile and seemed to have determined carrying out his plan was worth the risks involved. So he asked me, "Mom, tell everyone I'm knocking the house down."
"Attention everyone, Seth is knocking down the house." Then he exerted some force on the door frame by the porch.
"It's too hard."
A perfect lesson that I hope to take to heart: it takes much much more energy to carry out anger-initiated actions. I lose my patience. This fact has produced some of my most un-proud moments that I'd rather forget. But, I have also been able to teach my children about apologizing, admitting you were wrong, explaining why you were angry and asking for forgiveness. I would rather not lose patience, but the inevitable forces me to gain something from such a loss.
Thank you, Seth, for this reminder and for not knocking our house down.