Monday, March 19, 2007

The Stinging Truth

I'm a self-labeled hoverer. I hover like a hen over my offspring. They are all, at present, so tiny, that I like to know where and what every minute. I disregard criticism that may come my way due to this behavior: accusations of paranoia or motherly meddling. Perhaps tales from the ER brought to me by my husband have contributed to this hovering habit...but I think it is just a strong urge inside of me to protect my littles from...accident? disaster? tragedy? Thus, protecting yours truly from...an emotional unraveling of any sort.



I was hovering (sitting right next to) over Seth when he aspirated the infamous almonds. Again, last night, at a friend's, I was once again hovering, this time literally, over Lucy as she was reaching in some compartments in the toy closet. Immediately she withdrew her hand with a yelp. I checked the finger for blood. None. Then, realizing even before seeing, I knew the culprit had been my desert nemesis:



One of the few bugs that sends your child to the Emergency Room. The dreaded scorpion! I scooped her up and slowly walked over, slowly said, "Craig, Craig". Conversation halted, attention had, "Lucy has been bitten by a scorpion". Gasps of horror undulated through the room. But, everything seemed fine. Then a nosebleed, uncharacteristic crying, tearing at the ears. Leaving the friend's. Home with a stung Lucile. Quickly things turned from bad to worse and even Craig began to panic (in the ever so calm fashion that is his). He rushed her to his second home and I nearly threw the kids in bed while calling for backup. Backup came, I also rushed and we sat watching. Craig sitting back, evidence of relief on his face--the effect, not so much due to a change in his daughter, as perhaps the comfort of his daughter being there in HIS element, where help was ready, waiting in the wings . I trying to console this tiny little body with venom rushing through her nerves. Eyes googly, limbs uncoordinated and unstill. She was the picture of misery. But, soon her muscles began to relax and she closed her tired unsettled eyes. After a few hours we were driving home wondering how the calm Sunday evening we had anticipated had turned sour---from a mere sting.



So, lesson learned? One--definitely by the scorpion, who is no longer. Another, by me: Hovering will not hold at bay the stings and scratches that will undoubtedly come.



Yet, somehow, I will persist in hovering.

23 comments:

Lucy said...

What a horrible story! I am not a hoverer and suddenly wish I were. I'm so glad you were there and that you are obviously filled with mama mojo. I hope Lucy feels better!

rebecca said...

My heart is racing...
What a good end to your hovering tale. I am so glad that Craig was there - I am sure that brought you some peace in the moment! Now you have another southwest survival story. Yikes! I am THRILEED that Lucy is ok!!!!!

Amy said...

Oh my. Well-told tale..you definitely had me on edge. I don't know how I miss out on all of the ER rushing with my two wild boys, but we have yet to have any emergencies. My house, however, needs emergency care far too often with broken walls, scratched paint, towel holders pulled from place. Good thing Craig was back for you on this occasion! I can always be calmer when Jim is at hand.

Jordan said...

Yes yes yes, so happy Craig was there!!

amy m said...

This has always been a fear of mine. The sting of a scorpion. I don't know why as I've never lived in the places they call home, but still they are frighten creatures.

I'm really glad your husband was there for support and to give comfort. I am really glad this story had a good ending. Perhaps it was good that you were hovering in that moment.

Kelly said...

Oh, Jordan! I felt sick inside reading this. Scorpions are so nasty. When we first moved to Arizona, there were 2 in our house. I was sure I would never leave the couch again to set foot on our seemingly infested floor. I am so sorry your little Lucy found one with her hand. And, so glad Craig was there for both of you.

I am a hovering hen, too. It is rather horrifying to find that it doesn't protect as much as we hope. But there's always the "just in case" that it might. I hope you and Lucy are having a better (and venom-free) day!

Tasha said...

Oh Jordan! Growing up in the desert scorpions are my biggest fear!

I am so glad she is ok and that Craig was there. The few times I've seen Dave worried, I knew it was an emergent situation!

ingrid said...

Oh, Jordan! I seriously just felt some tightening in my prego belly while reading this! What a scare! I too am thrilled that Lucy is ok. What a comfort that Craig was there to be with you and it shows your character how calm you handled the situation. You're an amazing Mama!

I had some pretty near fatal experiences with fire ants when I was little, so I am a "hoverer" so to speak, when my children play outside in not so familiar territory. And then of course, there are the Floridian snakes...

Again, I am SO HAPPY to hear a good ending to this emergency with little Lucy.

ingrid said...

Oh, Jordan! I seriously just felt some tightening in my prego belly while reading this! What a scare! I too am thrilled that Lucy is ok. What a comfort that Craig was there to be with you and it shows your character how calm you handled the situation. You're an amazing Mama!

I had some pretty near fatal experiences with fire ants when I was little, so I am a "hoverer" so to speak, when my children play outside in not so familiar territory. And then of course, there are the Floridian snakes...

Again, I am SO HAPPY to hear a good ending to this emergency with little Lucy.

TX Girl said...

What. I cannot believe she got bit by a scorpion. Most people go their entire lives without an encounter with a scorpion. Adam was no help- he has no idea what you do?

So happy Lucy-Lu is okay.

Julia said...

Oh my gosh, Jordan, that is so scary. I am so glad she is okay. I am so happy that Craig was there for both of you.

I'm sure that I will be a hovering mother-- I feel like I already hover. Sometimes when I am with a friend, I find myself completely preoccupied with her kid, while she (the mom) goes on with her story only partially aware of what her child is doing. I'm glad I will have Eric to keep me somewhat sane.

Jordan said...

Julia!! I do the same thing with other people's kids--it is a consuming career!

Lara...Adam doesn't need to know thank goodness...and luckily Craig sees stung kids regularly.

Snakes??!! Ingrid? Are they poisonous? I'm glad you didn't go into preterm labor reading this post.

Yes, Kelly, the "just in case" is always in the back of my head.

Thank you, thank you for your concern, all.

Elizabeth said...

I am so glad she is okay. So glad you are a hoverer!

Katy said...

Your hovering has proved to be the saving grace to your kids on more than one occasion--it's also called mother's premonition or the Spirit. Absolutely nothing wrong with it! That's what a mother does!

ingrid said...

Craig sees stung kids regularly?!?! I'm am sure this helped with Lucy's situation, but I had no idea that scorpions were so rampant in Arizona!!!

And yes, we do have snakes here. Fortunately, we have not had any experiences with them, but they educate even the littlest kindergarteners on how to spot a venomous and non-venomous snake, and how stomping on the ground will scare the snake away, not running from it. (Venomous = triangle shaped head, non-venomous = round head, although the non-venomous snakes do know how to make themselves appear to be venomous by making their heads into the triangle shape when they spot danger). OK, more info than needed I am sure...OK, so I should probably start my own blog...

Again, I am just so glad to hear that Lucy is safe and sound.

Jenny said...

Oh, Jordan. That is awful. I am glad Lucy is alright. I have never been stung by a scorpion, but we would find those buggers hanging from our ceiling as kids. I am glad that it wasn't a baby one(Those are more poisonious). Big hugs from SA! (it's a good thing you and Mindy have ER for hubbys) she had a big scare too this weekend.

Jill said...

Oh my gosh, what a frightening story (Mindy posted her horror story today too), between you and Mindy I am feeling frightened for my kids. I am so NOT a hoverer, I'm a hope-for-the-bester or something. I'm so thankful Lucy is okay, what a fright. (I'm also thankful you had backup you could call in.)

Crystalyn said...

jordan, that is awful! how scary! i'm so glad you were able to get the help you need and that she is ok. and i'm glad you weren't alone for this one.

sista # 2 said...

My hubs was stung 2x by the evil scorpions in my parents house a long time ago. Very scary!!
I have a weird question though -did she scream the whole time at the hospital? I would think so. That is so hard to hear the pain!
Awesome that the story ended good.

Oh ya -and I would rather be called paranoid or hoverer than have my child gone one day! Never apologize for that. I know you're not freaky about it, just very watchful, like me ;) -ciao

annalisa said...

I am a hoverer too. I was told it would subside when I had children of my mine, but no. I hover, standing right there as my daughter hurts herself and I cannot stop it. But if you had not hovered, you may not have discovered the source of her yelp. Poor little Lucy. I hope she is alright and recovering. What a scary night for you both.

Amy W. said...

Oh my goodness Jordan. I am horrified. I am so glad you were right there . . . what would have happened if you had not been hovering? Poor, poor Lucy.

Not fair that you have now been to hospital twice in such a short time.

michelle said...

What a terrible ordeal, for all of you! I've never actually seen a scorpion, and I hope to keep it that way. It's really too bad that we can't spare our children from harm, I hate to think of her suffering (thinking of venom going through her body gave me the shivers!).

carlo said...

oh my, oh my, oh my! i obviously need to start my catch-up blog reading in reverse order!!!!! so glad she is ok/ so glad that you knew what to do. 2 in such a short time? eeek.

I am a hoverer, too. Even with a 9 and a 4 yr old.